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Discover resources to support yourself or a friend who may be experiencing family and domestic violence.
Family and Domestic Violence
Know or think you might know a friend experiencing difficulties at home?
Family and domestic violence can be a challenging experience and it’s hard to know what to do if you or someone you know is affected.
To help, we’ve teamed up with Kids of Purple, a space for young people dealing with domestic and family violence, created by young people who have experienced it.
If you think a friend is experiencing challenges at home:
If you notice a friend has been engaging in risky behaviours or struggling to perform everyday tasks, it may a sign something is going on at home.
Checking in with a friend may let them know that you are there to support them if they feel like sharing.
Sometimes it can be hard to understand what someone else is experiencing but listening to what they share can make their experiences feel validated.
Experiencing domestic and family violence can feel overwhelming at times so talking to a professional or trusted adult may help. A trusted adult could include a teacher, a police officer, a neighbour, a counsellor, a sports coach or another member of the family such as a grandparent.
If your friend is nervous about speaking to someone, you could offer to go with them to a counsellor or encourage them to call an anonymous helpline. This could be Kids Helpline, 1800RESPECT or, if it is an emergency, 000. You can also offer to stay with them as they make the call.
Sometimes people don’t want to, or aren’t able to, reach out for help for fear that it will make a situation more unsafe. Even though it may seem like your loved one is making the wrong decision if they don’t report abuse or seek professional help, it may be the best decision for their safety at the time. Respecting their decisions will make them trust you more and help them feel safer sharing with you.
Domestic and family violence can be an emotionally and physically isolating experience. Making efforts to spend time with a friend will make them feel valued.
If you are able to, offering transport assistance or asking if they want to stay the night may help relieve stress.
More resources to help support someone experiencing family and domestic violence
Kids of Purple is a space for young people dealing with domestic and family violence to seek support, understand more information on processes like the law, access available help services, hear from shared experiences and more.
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Carer Gateway
An Australian Government program providing free services and support for carers. If you care for a family member or friend with disability, a medical condition, mental illness, or who is frail due to age, then Carer Gateway can help you. You can call on 1800 422 737.